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Heart behind my eyes
I dont have a long list of guys that I have dated, purely because Im not the kind of girl that goes in and out of relationships so easily. So this post is dedicated to my past, present and future partners. The lessons I've learnt (and still learning) are lessons to be noted and carried out to future potential partners. So here goes...
Boyfriend #1- PAST
I could spend all night slamming you and saying what a terrible boyfriend you were but that would imply that I still care about what we use to be which I dont.You pretty much taught me what not to want in a partner.Lesson #1 You made me realise that Im worth so much more than empty "I love you's" just so you could get into my pants (which of course my gut feeling was correct in that I never ever gave in even though we were dating for 2 years). Lesson #2 those three words "I love you" are not to be thrown around unless you really mean it, which is why I think it is important only to say them unless you truly mean it and not because you want something in return. Lesson #3 Dont be so damn ignorant. Lesson #4 There comes a time where you need to detach from your parents and become your own person. Lesson #5 Dont hide behind the Bible, you are what you are. Lesson #6 As much as I'll probably only remember you for always being so persistent to have sex with me, there were things that you did right and therefore should be commended. 1) Driving down to Joburg to come and visit me once or every 2nd month...um ya I think thats just about it. Thank goodness I ended all that crap.
Boyfriend #2-PRESENT
You know when a person means so much to you that you cant find the words to describe the feeling. Thats my present. My bestfriend on rainy and sunny days, my girlfriend on days when I feel so alone and distraught, my mentor when Im in the need for inspiration and motivation, my boyfriend on every other day and my partner as we walk side by side making magic and creating everlasting memories. To me, he is everything a girl could ask for, yes we work on each others nerves sometimes but its all part of the learning and growing process. A benchmark has been set and any guy that is to follow has one hell of a standard to live up to, dont blame it on me, I've just been blessed. This story is far from complete as you will hear so much more about him throughout my blog, he is the "Love" in 'Love, Fashion and Lifestyle'. The gold butterfly on the top left represents the name that he calls me, saying that I have metamorphosised and have come out of my shell so I am his butterfly and he is my superstar because he is capable of so many amazing things and I know that he is going to make it big one day.
FUTURE
Love can be tough but at the same time it should make you happy. What I have learnt and continue to learn is that it is important to communicate with your partner, because often you'll find that there's something in his heart that needs to be shared, they can be things that are detrimental to the survival of your relationship, or they could be things that will help you grow as a person or as a couple. Whats important is how you handle and overcome the issues that are being communicated. Secondly, remember that its not always about you, its called being a 'partner' for a reason, so lean when you need to but keep in mind that your partner needs some leaning too. Everyday you will learn more about yourself, your partner and the world around you so embrace it and dont let the petty issues get in the way of your magical journey together. Let them be here today, and gone tomorrow.
BNJ*
Boyfriend #1- PAST
I could spend all night slamming you and saying what a terrible boyfriend you were but that would imply that I still care about what we use to be which I dont.You pretty much taught me what not to want in a partner.Lesson #1 You made me realise that Im worth so much more than empty "I love you's" just so you could get into my pants (which of course my gut feeling was correct in that I never ever gave in even though we were dating for 2 years). Lesson #2 those three words "I love you" are not to be thrown around unless you really mean it, which is why I think it is important only to say them unless you truly mean it and not because you want something in return. Lesson #3 Dont be so damn ignorant. Lesson #4 There comes a time where you need to detach from your parents and become your own person. Lesson #5 Dont hide behind the Bible, you are what you are. Lesson #6 As much as I'll probably only remember you for always being so persistent to have sex with me, there were things that you did right and therefore should be commended. 1) Driving down to Joburg to come and visit me once or every 2nd month...um ya I think thats just about it. Thank goodness I ended all that crap.Boyfriend #2-PRESENT
You know when a person means so much to you that you cant find the words to describe the feeling. Thats my present. My bestfriend on rainy and sunny days, my girlfriend on days when I feel so alone and distraught, my mentor when Im in the need for inspiration and motivation, my boyfriend on every other day and my partner as we walk side by side making magic and creating everlasting memories. To me, he is everything a girl could ask for, yes we work on each others nerves sometimes but its all part of the learning and growing process. A benchmark has been set and any guy that is to follow has one hell of a standard to live up to, dont blame it on me, I've just been blessed. This story is far from complete as you will hear so much more about him throughout my blog, he is the "Love" in 'Love, Fashion and Lifestyle'. The gold butterfly on the top left represents the name that he calls me, saying that I have metamorphosised and have come out of my shell so I am his butterfly and he is my superstar because he is capable of so many amazing things and I know that he is going to make it big one day.FUTURE
Love can be tough but at the same time it should make you happy. What I have learnt and continue to learn is that it is important to communicate with your partner, because often you'll find that there's something in his heart that needs to be shared, they can be things that are detrimental to the survival of your relationship, or they could be things that will help you grow as a person or as a couple. Whats important is how you handle and overcome the issues that are being communicated. Secondly, remember that its not always about you, its called being a 'partner' for a reason, so lean when you need to but keep in mind that your partner needs some leaning too. Everyday you will learn more about yourself, your partner and the world around you so embrace it and dont let the petty issues get in the way of your magical journey together. Let them be here today, and gone tomorrow.
BNJ*
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